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10 Tips to Protect Your Mental Health!

September 17, 2020
Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by 2020. Between being quarantined, having to work from home, and learning to be a full time virtual learning supervisor, I’ve had my fair share of adjustment this year. Add on the social climate of America, and death within my family and it’s enough to overwhelm even the most composed person. We’ve put a lot of procedures in place to help us tackle new schedules, education, and safety. On the contrary, not much has been put in place to help us maintain peace and sanity through all of these changes.  Today, I’m sharing with you some tips that have helped me stay focused, positive, and grateful during a challenging year.  1. Start Your Morning With Prayer I find that when I wake up on the “wrong side of the bed” prayer is the easiest way to turn my mood around. A simple prayer upon waking has the power to set the tone for the whole day.  2. Set a Morning Routine – And Stick To It! I’m still a work in progress on this one because I love my sleep, but getting up just a little earlier and setting a consistent routine is a great way to protect your mental health. Not only does it give us moms some much needed alone time, it allows us to knock a few tasks off of our to-do lists, leaving us feeling productive and empowered! So instead of hitting the snooze button, hop up! Make that coffee. Get the workout in. Blog a bit. Do what inspires you to feel good! 3. Girl, Read Your Bible.  When I was younger, I found reading the bible to be very boring. Now, I love it! I find that when I read intentionally, I easily connect the word to current situations in my life, and find God’s continued promises to love and take care of me. What better peace is there?!  4. Therapy is Your Friend. I grew up thinking therapy was taboo. My family communicated often, but never did I hear about seeking professional help for the issues women face on a daily basis. When life hit me harder than ever, it was Jesus and therapy that literally saved my life. When your challenges or feelings become too much to handle alone, seek help to get the support you need to thrive. There is NO shame in taking care of your mind. Do what’s best for YOU!  5. Connection is Key. I’ve said it a thousand times. I can’t picture life without my girlfriends. Being quarantined and not able to see them has been extremely difficult for me. To keep from falling into the depression of isolation, connecting with your loved ones is key. Here are some great ways to connect virtually: -Zoom Wine Tasting -Virtual Sip & Paint -Book Clubs -Virtual Movie Night! 6. Go Outside! Outside has become such a luxury. We want to protect ourselves and families, but it’s so important to get outside! Take a moment each day to catch some sunlight via a walk around your neighborhood, enjoy coffee/tea on your front porch, or just play a fun game with your children in the yard. Sunlight will always be a quick remedy for a gloomy mood.  7. Get Moving! An idle mind can often be an overthinking one. Get moving! Whether that means a workout, organizing, or running an errand, staying productive can help combat feelings of hopelessness or boredom. Take 30 minutes each day to be active and watch how it impacts your overall mood.  8. Journal  Anyone else feel better when they reflect on all they have to be thankful for? Instead of keeping a to-do list, I’ve started writing a list of things I’ve accomplished each day. After what seems like a hard day, when you write down your accomplishments, it makes even the challenges seem like blessings because you made it through! 9. Put the Phone DOWN! Hey, it’s me: GUILTY. Scrolling through social media is all fun and games until you find yourself going down the rabbit hole of comparison. Sometimes, putting the phone down to enjoy your own reality is just what you need. When we remove distractions to be present in the moment, we can often find happiness in our own homes, families, and lives in general. Set aside time to turn off the phone and be present! 10. Be Patient With Yourself. As we all adjust, grieve, laugh, have successes, and make mistakes, remember to be patient with yourself. Give yourself grace and space to feel everything, but don’t let feelings consume you. Know that you aren’t alone, and we are all just trying our very best.  I hope these tips have been helpful to you. Share with me some tips that you’ve used to protect your mental health this year.   
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Tips For Creating Healthy Boundaries

February 19, 2020
Most people that know me in real life will tell you I’m extremely kind, nurturing, and soft-spoken. These are all qualities that I absolutely love about myself. They are also qualities that when not given boundaries, have been detrimental to my growth, happiness and peace.  It was not until I learned to create healthy boundaries that I was able to thrive and bounce back from my self inflicted downfalls. Learn To Say NO, and Then Learn to Say YES! Half of my battle was that I’ve always been a yes wo-man. I don’t like conflict by nature, and my “go with the flow” personality often had me saying yes to situations that I don’t want to be in. First, I had to learn to say “no.” For me, this meant turning down events I couldn’t afford, severing ties with people who didn’t have my best interest at heart, and standing up for myself to know what I deserve in my life, in my love, and in my goals. Though this all a continued work in progress, I’ve become okay with disturbing the peace, as long as it brings me peace. My Tips for Saying No! Don’t apologize.  If you want to say no, be firm and direct. I often found myself apologizing for missing out on certain things, for speaking my mind, or for simply being me. Use tact always, but say what you mean, and mean exactly what you say. I said what I said never resonated more. Buy yourself some time. If you’re not sure, don’t respond with a yes. Tell the person you need time to think. They will respect it, or they won’t. Make decision with a clear mind and heart. Compromise. ONLY do this to serve yourself. If the activity, friendship, relationship, or whatever it may be doesn’t benefit you, it’s a firm no. Compromise to find solutions that benefit all parties. Refusal Versus Rejection. This was, and is REALLY tough for me. When you say “no,” remember that you are refusing a request, not rejecting a person. For example, if I person mistreats you and you decide to walk away from the friendship/relationship, you are refusing to be mistreated, not rejecting the broken person who is projecting hurt. A whole word, right? Be true to yourself. Know what you want and stick to it! Peace is the ultimate goal! My Tips for Saying Yes! Be true to yourself. Know what you want and stick to it! Peace is the ultimate goal! I’m saying this again because when you know what you want, you do what’s best for you! Don’t Feel Guilty For Growing As I began to change, I started to feel like I was leaving some folks behind mentally. As you say YES to growth, your energy changes, and so does your circle. No New Friends? Actually, YES to new friends. Ones who are like minded, God-centered, goal-focused, and support you like you support them. Take Time For You Oh hey, moms! When’s the last time you did something just for YOU? Learn to say yes to self-care wholeheartedly. If this means scheduling one day out of the week/month where you shut off mommy duties, go for it! If it means a quick visit to the nail salon on the weekend, do it. When you take care of you, everything just feels better! Believe In Yourself. The biggest task in creating boundaries is the confidence to know that you deserve the world, and are able to obtain it. You daily decisions and thoughts impact your life in mighty ways. Say yes to believing in you, affirming yourself, and chasing after the life God has created for you!
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May we know them.  
May we be them. 
May we raise them.  
 
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I pretend I’m ok, but deep down I want to go on I pretend I’m ok, but deep down I want to go on vacation every week. 😖 
 
I’m having a bad case of the Pre-Mondays and wishing I was back on the beach. But instead of focusing on the fact that I have to clock in, I’m shifting my attitude to gratefulness.  
 
I get to work from home doing something I love. I get to spend more time with my daughter. I get to help take care of my family. I get to do something so many are praying for.  
 
I’m heading into the week with hope and gratitude for what is to come!  
 
Do you have the Sunday night blues? What are some things you’d like to accomplish this week?
Beach, please!     Enjoying a quick getaway wi Beach, please!  
 
Enjoying a quick getaway with my family this weekend. Thankful for time to rest, regroup, and enjoy the company of all my favorite people.  
 
What are y’all up to this weekend?
Send help! Quarantine has our routine out the wind Send help! Quarantine has our routine out the window!  
 
If I’m being fully honest, the last few months we’ve been winging it. Bedtime is much later than it should be and waking up looks like rolling out of bed and logging right on for work and school.  While I’ve appreciated the extra time to hang out with my favorite girl, we are both at our best when routines are clear.
 
I miss the days where I had a few moments to do my makeup, breathe, and pray before having to jump right into mommy mode. One of my March goals is to reset the routine to get to bed earlier and wake up with time for myself.  
 
Has your routine remained consistent? Share some tips with me to get back on track.
New Month, Same Goals!          It New Month, Same Goals!    
    
It’s the last month in the first quarter of the year and like many I’ve got lots of goals to accomplish!   
One of my biggest goals this year for my brand is to spend less time working on growing and more time on connecting. I truly started this platform to inspire women to be at their best, and I want to remain true to that goal by being more intentional about sharing my story and learning yours.     
    
Two things: First, jump in the comments and tell me something I may not know about you. Then head to my stories and find out a few things you may not know about me.     
    
Wishing you a product month. Let’s go smash those goals! 

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17 years ago, I lost my best friend.       17 years ago, I lost my best friend.   
  
I was only 17 years old myself. With two months before graduation, I was on a high until I saw the look on my mother’s face telling me that my Daddy was no longer with us. I’ll never forget the way my knees buckled, and how it felt like a piece of my heart literally left right along with him.   
  
My father was my best friend. He treated me like royalty since as I long as could remember. He knew exactly how to speak to me with care, but with conviction so that I could be the woman God called me to be. He took me on “dates”. Bought me flowers. Showed me how to be loved. He was everything to me.   
  
He used to tell me that I would be something great. Many times I’ve questioned if I make him proud. If my life is what he desired for me.   
  
Though he isn’t physically here, each day I feel his presence. I see him in my daughter’s eyes when she smiles. I remember his warmth, his laughter, and his love.   
  
They say time heals all wounds, but I’ve yet to live that truth. Today and every day Daddy, I’m missing you with all my heart. ❤️
Quit sleeping on your potential.     In case n Quit sleeping on your potential.  
 
In case no one told you today: 
 
The life you want is attainable.  
You are worthy.  
You are valuable.  
You can do hard things.  
You WILL succeed.  
 
But you have to believe it for yourself. Let go of all fear and just GO for it! Your future self will thank you.  
 
Go ahead and drop a positive affirmation in the comments to encourage yourself!
The highlight reel isn’t real. 
 
In today’s episode of real motherhood, I present my daily life. As I’m trying to accomplish a task and here enters my kid in a swimsuit in the middle of the winter, with untamed hair, and makeup on her face.  
 
Instead of getting frustrated that she was interrupting my content creation, I embraced the moment and let her jump right in. The result was a perfect depiction of our lives together and easily one of my favorite photos!  
 
Just look at that smile. It’s enough to remind you that life doesn’t have to look perfect in order for it to be beautiful. Enjoy each moment and find the beauty in the realness of each day. 
 
Do you struggle with perfection?
A Sunday well spent brings a week of content!   A Sunday well spent brings a week of content!  
 
Sunday’s have easily become my favorite because I get to slow down from my normal, busy routine. Each Sunday I try get ready for the upcoming week with these five easy tips. 
 
1. Pray : Use the day to pray, reflect, and set your intentions.  
2. Play: Spend time doing something you love!  
3. Plan: Write your to-do lists and prioritize tasks.  
4. Prep: Prep meals, outfits, or anything else that complicates daily routines.  
5. Pause: Rest your mind and body before taking on a new week. 
 
If you need a resource to do these things, check out @thecoveredlife planner! From scriptures to affirmations to lists, it offers every tool needed to be ahead of the game.  
 
What is your Sunday routine?
A glass of wine, a romantic movie, and 72 hours of A glass of wine, a romantic movie, and 72 hours of sleep sounds like the perfect weekend.  
 
I’ll settle for pinecone painting and barbies. But wine me, please!  
 
What are y’all up to this weekend?
May your Friday be as beautiful as your are!  
  
Friday’s for me used getting glammed up and hitting the town. It’s easy to feel like less confident now that I spend most days in sweats or pajamas running after my five year old. So today, I’m throwing on some makeup, curling my hair, and strutting around my house reminding every one that mama still got it!  
 
What’s the one thing that gives you an instant boost of confidence?
On the days when motherhood feels like the most ex On the days when motherhood feels like the most exhausting job in the world, I’d still choose it every time. 💕 
 
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Why Is No One Engaging With My Content?     SA Why Is No One Engaging With My Content?  
 
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I remember when I first started out as a blogger. I’d post content and it would feel like literally no one was reading what I had to say. I’d become frustrated and felt like I didn’t have the “it” factor, but instead I had to look a little closer to see what was really missing. Here’s a few ways to get more engagement with your content daily: 
 
1. Before you post anything, ask yourself what value it offers. Is it teaching, inspiring, and entertaining anyone?  
2. Study insights to determine when your audience is most active, and what type of content they like to see.  
3. Study insights again and know that engagement doesn’t always come in the form of “likes”. Saves, shares, and comments are key in engagement!  
4. Be sure that your post captions include a catchy intro, valuable body, and a call to action each time.  
5. Engage back! Build genuine relationships with people to grow and sustain your online community.  
 
What are some ways you encourage engagement with your audience? What prompts you to engage on other’s content?
Beauty For Ashes.    I don’t know who needs Beauty For Ashes. 
 
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you don’t have to be embarrassed about what you’ve been through. It might be tea for some, but for others it’s a testimony that may change their lives. 
 
I spent the past few years being ashamed for what I allowed and how it impacted me. The more I begin to tell my story, the more free I felt. I realized I wasn’t alone in my struggles, and I also realized describing how I overcame it helped so many others.  
 
My encouragement to you today is to walk in your truth. It will truly set you free to live the life you desire.
New week, new goals!    Can you believe Februa New week, new goals! 
 
Can you believe February is half was over? Before you know we’ll be through the first quarter of the year.  
 
Though I have a week off of work, I’ll be spending a bulk of it on my brand: blogging, creating new content, and connecting with brands.  
 
What goals do you have this week? Drop some tips for completing tasks!
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Happy Valentine’s Day, from me and my hearts to you and yours. 💕 
 
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